Your scars remain. Your hurt is real. Acknowledge it. Don’t hold it in and deal with it alone. Find someone to confide in and work things through. The pain may not go away forever, but at least you’ll know you don’t have to deal with it by yourself when the weather is bad.
We cannot negate people’s feelings just because they don’t mesh with ours. We have to step into the hurt and/or concerns and strive to understand each other.