Today is the day of almost new beginnings and changes. Tomorrow people will be starting their resolution process. The resolutions will begin, as they do every year, which consist of losing weight, exercising more, going to church more, reading more, and the list can go on and on. For this who will partake in this practice let me give some thoughts and encouragement:
1) Allow yourself to have flexibility. If you mess up or miss a day, don’t stop and avoid the things that have caused the setbacks.
2) Stay focused on the goal(s). There will be events or individuals that will try to sway your concentration. Make a poster with your goals, a journal, or some other notes the night before that keep you encouraged and motivated.
3) Make your goals attainable. Don’t be unrealistic. Set the goals by month so they can be looked back on at the end of the year as success.
4) Have fun! Don’t make goals that will stress you out or weigh you down. Find friends that will take part in it with you. Hint: if you can’t find one friend to do a goal with you, look back at 2 and 3 and see which one describes your goal.
Have a happy New Year celebration and good luck! Peace.
Well, here I am again, three months behind on my nblog post and feeling like I have a lot that hasn’t been written. It has been an interesting few months trying to get things ready for our baby boy coming into the world, friends having kids all around us, one of my best friends sharing that he is going to be a dad and their baby will be here a couple months after Liam, and I joined a gym. Yep, I bet you didn’t see that last statement coming into the picture, but it fits if you think about it.
I have wanted to join a gym for awhile now, but just haven’t found the right time. In fact, I procrastinated a lot. I found myself judging myself and even the people in the gym I didn’t know yet. Thoughts like “Dude, you haven’t lifted anything heavier than a liter of soda for over a year” (ok, slight exaggeration, I did P90X, but never over 25lbs.)or “Those people in there are going to look at me like ‘oooh, look at this 30 yr. old chubby guy trying to relive his football weight lifting days'” or…well, you get the picture.
I have needed to get in shape so I started running, but felt really unfulfilled. I love running, in fact I am running the DisneyWorld Marathon again in 2014, but it still wasn’t enough for me. So, here I am, a 30 yr. old chubby guy trying to get back in shape. However, I have much more riding on this than a marathon or football glory days (if you can call them that), but I have a son that is depending on me to be healthy. This baby, as with all the other babies that are now around us, needs his father to be healthy. He needs me to be active with him and ready to be here as long as I can be here. This gym membership and my running is now not just for my life, but for my son to enjoy my life as well. I cannot hold off any longer on making sure I get in shape again.
As I look in the mirror today weighing 242lbs. I have to commit to achieving some goals. I have to meet thsoe goals and not lower my expectations. Liam has to see his father succeed, especially if I want him to succeed too. My example starts now, so later on he can say “My dad could do it, so can I.” Whether or not it has to do with his weight ro any some other goal he sets for himself, he needs to know that if his dad could do it, he can too. His dad won’t quit, especially since his life (not physical, but emotional) depends on it.
Today has been a pretty good day. In fact, I think these past few days have been great. Natasha and I found out we are having a boy, which is pretty exciting. This is an awesome time for both of us as we prepare to be parents.
As I look forward as the father of this boy I am getting anxious. The fact that I am going to be responsible for raising this boy to be a man is quite overwhelming, but exciting. Natasha will be a great mom and passing on motherly wisdom, but I am going to be the dad which means I will be responsible for guiding his understanding of manhood. I will be educating him on the ways of being a man, how to treat a woman, how to take care of his wife, and how to love his mother and how that translates into his love for his wife, and much more.
These are seeds that I will be planting right away. I like to think that he knows now how much I love his mom from all the nice things I do for him and her ( I say that partially in jest). There is some truth to that though. If I am not loving her with all of me now then how can I do it later? If I don’t find it important to care for her now, then how will it be important later? I need to be doing things now, but not just for the sake of our son.
Natasha needs to know the value I hold for her. The actions I make later should not come as a surprise because they are actions I am already making. I want the seeds to be planted now. Our son will come into a loving household with two loving parents that will not be riding on tense lines. His mom will be loved prior to his birth so he will sense that love from the very beginning. God has given me a responsibility to be a father and a husband. I will take that role and I will do it to the best of my ability.
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do- Ephesians 2:10
At times I forget this part of God’s message to His creation. Paul wrote this letter to the Ephesians encouraging them in their walk. They needed to hear these words so they could move forward in sharing the Gospel, living the Gospel, and loving the Gospel. The good news of Christ is the fact that we are given new life in His sacrifice and resurrection. This act alone was done to reveal how important God’s handiwork is to Him. It is not a “was” statement it is an “is” statement. The creation is important and valued and is meant to continue the good works of Christ and reveal the good works of Christ.
Like I shared earlier, sometimes I forget this part of God’s message. Due to my faults and failures I tend to think that there is no way that God looks at me and says “Man, that’s a nice piece of work”, I mean He may say “Bobby is a real piece of work”, but not meaning it in a flattering way.
I am wrong in this thought. I am His handiwork, or in one translation it says workmanship. I am a piece of work; His! This goes back to Iron Man 2 when Stark’s dad said “The greatest creation I ever made was you” (speaking to Tony). God is constantly saying this to us, especially through His Word. His Son came to show how valuable this workmanship is to Him NOW! If He could He would put us in a special case to protect us, but He doesn’t. He put us in this world in order for us to reveal His good work and to show that He recognizes each person in this world as His greatest creation. We are His and He will not let that go. He has created us with purpose and love with His great hands and longs for us to embrace the great news of being part of His great work! How great is that! (The overuse of great is on purpose).