I was watching a reality show with my wife the other night, I won’t say which one, but it was definitely about wealthy sisters who are involved in fashion and makeup.
Anyway, in this show, one of the sisters threw a party of some sort with a bunch of random rooms and mirrors. It seemed a bit overt the top, yet everyone there was so in shock and awe over the event.
As I watched the show, I was paying close attention to facial expressions and body language. So many of the people were celebrating the sister. They made it all seem wonderful and glorious.
The problem isn’t that they celebrated the party. It isn’t even the fact that they celebrated the sister’s work.
My issue is the fact, there was no footage of anyone saying, “Hmmm…I’m not quite sure why you chose this look?”
The show had to make it seem like everyone loved the work. They very well may have, but you and I both know, there were most likely people there with the thought I just expressed.
The majority of the people surrounding these sisters are what we refer to as “Yes Men”, people who agree and go along with everything a person says, especially when it allows for them to gain something.
“Yes Men” are dangerous. They tell you what you want to hear, but very rarely is it the truth. They fear what can happen to them if they go against you. So, of course, they agree with everything you need agreement with.
This isn’t healthy for you, or for them.
Everyone needs people in their lives who will speak full truth. You and I both need people who will share in our successes, but we need them to tell us when we may need to step back and rethink our steps.
It’s all about having good people around us, not only looking out for themselves, but looking out for us, too.
You know this is true. I mean, think about it.
You know when you put something on, and you just aren’t sure if it looks good. You can look in a mirror, but you’re still going to ask someone for their opinion.
If you have someone who is a “yes man”, they will tell you everything looks great. Then, you go out and you see the wrinkles, the stains, or even realize how tight it is when you go to sit in the car.
You would get pretty upset with that. I know I would.
That person you asked didn’t care about you or how you looked. They just told you what you wanted to hear. That wasn’t helpful!
You want someone who will point out your stains, at times. You want someone who will say, that is a wrinkle in your life that may need to get straightened out.
Don’t search out friends that only say, “Yes”. Find the friends that will challenge you in the “No’s”.
We need to hear that truth. No’s aren’t always negative, so don’t fear them. Use them for growth. Use them for empowerment. Use them to learn. View them from a lease of love, if it is spoken from someone you trust and love.
We need to say, “no” to the “yes men” in our lives.
Peace and blessings friends.