I have been involved in some difficult conversations about church during my time in ministry. I have had people tell me they can’t stand church, but they love Jesus. I have had people share their pain from past experiences in congregations. They share about judgment, ridicule, Every time I hear something like this, my heart hurts.
Why do we have so many churches hurting people?
People will say, “Well, you have imperfect people in a place who are going to make mistakes.”
Yes, this is true. However, it’s one thing if it were people who were new to the faith causing the pain. All of these people were being hurt by people who have been raised in the church or had been in key leadership roles. That is unacceptable.
People getting their feelings hurt, or feeling unappreciated, is going to happen. There will be individuals that will cause some sort of hurt. The difference that should be found in the church, is our response to the hurt we cause.
Oftentimes, outside of the Church, people who cause hurt will expect people to just get over it. There is a higher calling in the Church.
When someone is hurt in the Church, we are called to go and figure out how to reconcile. We are called to move into a closer connection to repair any damage we have caused. It may or may not completely heal the relationship, but we need to take the necessary steps to mend any broken parts, then allow ourselves to move forward.
It is all about the actions we take. Ignoring the pain we cause is immature and unfair.
It creates barriers between you and the other individual, but it also has influence on the way the other person could view the Church as a whole.
So many people flee from the Church because of past hurt. Those barriers have been built and it takes a lot to break through them.
When we take time to restore broken relationships, or at least do our part in putting things right, it breaks down the potential barrier towards the Church.
We cannot allow broken relationships to go unattended in the Church.
A simple, “I’m sorry.” can go a long way to preventing barriers to take hold.
May we see the importance of working to heal any pain we have caused, accidentally or on purpose, for the glory of God and the Church to be healthy.
Peace and blessings friends.
QUESTION: Have you taken time to attempt reconciling any broken relationships you may have? Consider it.